It takes both of you to make it work and it is mutually beneficial for both parities. I think there is a lot that is not being said by my wife. I think she is sensing that I am feeling lonely and unloved. When the wife found out, she was devastated which confused me. My own desire ebbed and became cynical in a sense.
His point is generally that a relationship is an ongoing conversation, it doesn't have to be one type or the other, as long as it works.
If I initiate I am an asshole. I have tried talking to him over the years, but he says there is nothing to discuss. She actually was the first to initiate sex in our relationship. Rather, she would prefer me happily saying goodbye and walking away. After the three-month waiting period, I attempted to again begin making amorous advances towards her which were quickly and soundly rejected. We live in a world where sex with your self masturbation has become the norm, and most men bring this into their marriage. It leaves something out: